Fathering today is not like what your Dad or the TV Dad's you remember. With a high divorce rate and changing family & work demands, most families are not mother, father and children living under one roof.
1. If you are planning to leave the home, carefully remove any assets or mementos you want to keep before you move out. Put them in a storage space and video your home before and after you have taken them. You may need to take assets and sentimental or breakable property to minimize the risk that the other spouse will try to hold them for ransom or damage them. You will also need to take assets you want to use, such as furniture and vehicles, and those assets that might be liquidated by your spouse, including precious gems and jewelry, collectibles, cash, and bearer bonds, and things that might be damaged such as heirloom china or Gramma's quilt and family photo albums..
1. Talk to a Marriage Counselor or other professional who may be able to help you save your marriage and support you during the process if divorce is the solution..
What are the funds normally used for? If they are necessary for maintaining the Community Property (CP) business, then you need to take that into account. But if they are just savings, then you can take them before you file or are served with the Petition for divorce.